The Only Sure Path To Happiness: And The Biggest Mistake Most People Make When it Comes To Making Others Happy

“Why should my happiness depend on the thoughts going on in someone else’s head?”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

I didn’t always understand this.

I grew up in a world that promoted caring so much about others opinions. Caring about fitting in at school. Caring about fitting in with co-workers at the new job.

I used to adopt this mindset too.

I cared a little too much about what others thought of me.

So much so that I would stuff my opinion to prevent any friction.

This Mindset Becomes Rooted in Our Subconscious.

Before long, we stuff our truth and change who we are just to fit without thinking too much of it…

It becomes a natural reaction.

It took me a long time to break free from this mindset (Still not perfect, but I’m working on it).

To understand that I’m my own human and my happiness should not depend on what other think of me. What their perceptions are. Or their pre-conceived notions.

It is only their perspective after all.

Perspective is Only Perspective.

Not absolute truth.

Maybe that persons truth… but it’s not mine.

And so, no one, not you or I, should have to change themselves or hide their opinions just to fit in. To care about what someone else thinks. To make that person happy.

You deserve to be you.

And I deserve to be me.

That is the only real path to happiness…