Mindfulness, Mindset, self-development

Life Is A Classroom: Why Learning is Necessary Beyond the Classroom Walls

Earlier this month, we chatted about intentions

And seeing that it’s still January, let’s elaborate a little more about starting the New Year off with intentions!

Why Intentions and NOT Resolutions?

I’ve mentioned this before, but I’m not a big fan of resolutions…

I find the idea of a new year’s resolution tends to be overwhelming. And more often than not, they set us up for failure. 

We build up this idea in our mind of all the goals we’ll crush and all the things we’ll accomplish, and when we fall short (even just a tad), we get down on ourselves. We give up.

For myself, I prefer to focus on setting intentions. For the year ahead. As well as for the day ahead.

An intention is a guiding principle or mindset that you want to adopt, rather than a specific goal. It can be a feeling you want to feel. Or the energy you want to bring with you into the year ahead.

There are many different ways to set an intention (and a whole lot less rules than setting goals or resolutions 😉)

Last week, I shared my intention setting with the help of the Dan Sullivan Question. This particular intention was geared towards the next three years of my life.

But for 2023… 

I Decided on Setting an Intention with my ‘Word of the Year’

This year, I’ve chosen my intentional word as “growth.” 

I’ve finally hit a point in my life where I’ve come to realize that we are always growing and always learning.

That we are meant to always grow and learn.

And that comfort and stagnation are not a part of our journey. There never will be a final comfortable destination in this beautiful human experience…

There will never be a point reached where we’ll say: “Okay, that’s it, I’ve learned all there is to learn in this life. I’m complete.”

It’s just not going to happen.

So instead, I’ll embrace the forever growth.

(Side note: Growth is not always linear… It’s more like a cycle… Like nature moving through seasons, our growth changes. Sometimes we grow up towards the sky. Other times we take a step back and shed our leaves. But even during those step backs, we grow from them. It is all part of the growth process.)

So this year, to follow through with my intentional word, I plan to say yes to the things I’ve always wanted to learn and try.

To start saying yes to the things I’ve always said:

“One day, I’d like to learn this…”

“One day, I’d like to try that…”

And we all know that “one day” just keeps slipping further away.

Until it never happens at all.

And let me tell you, I’m done putting off growth.

In the last quarter of 2022, I read the book “The 12 Week Year” by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington. This book shed some light on the fact that I have more time than I ever thought. That we all have more time than we think. 

And we are always capable of learning and growing – especially if it is something we prioritize because we truly desire it for ourselves.

I Desire Growth 

And I will do what it takes to keep this intentional promise I made with myself…

This year, I’ll be trying a whole lot of new things.

And learning a LOT more of the things I’ve always wanted to learn.

I hope that by sharing my intention of growth, it will inspire you to set your own intentions for the year. And to embrace the idea of forever growing.

Life Really Is One Big Giant Classroom.

Embrace each opportunity to learn and grow! Or MAKE your own opportunities!

I’m ready to make this year one of growth, one of trial and error, and one of learning from mistakes.

And perhaps, you’ll join me! 😉

With love,

Miss T.

Mindfulness, Mindset, self-development

New Year, New Intentions: The SINGLE, Most Powerful Question You Can Ask Yourself in 2023

Happy New Year! 

I just love ringing in the New Year! It offers me a time to reflect…

So much has happened over this past year.

A lot of lows that turned into highs. 

A lot of synchronicities that I’m glad I followed. Even if they were heartbreaking at first. 

I was Forced to Pivot and Head into the Unknown…

But I’m grateful for them all! Every single experience…

Because they led me to where I am now. 

And boy, am I ever happy to be here. Right here. 

With Each New Year that Rolls Around,
We Reflect and then Redirect.

We redirect our paths. We set new goals for ourselves – To help along in this beautiful journey we’re all on. 

Yes, I goal set too. But, I don’t typically wait for the start of a new year to set goals.

I set them all the time! 

I Love Setting Goals. Crushing Goals. Changing Goals. 

It’s all part of the process of life. 

What I LOVE to do at the start of the year, though, is set my intentions. 

My intentions, not just for the year ahead, but for my future self.

I align myself with where my spirit wants to take me. I breathe in my intentions fully. 

In an attempt to live my intentions wholeheartedly

And yes, while you could say goals and intentions are one in the same – I consider them slightly different.

Goals are SPECIFIC – They have a beginning and an end.

Whereas my intentions are in alignment with my purpose, my mission (and are slightly more general).

I Read a Book at the End of 2022 that Helped me Set My Intentions Moving Forward

The book is titled: The Dan Sullivan Question, by (you guessed it!) Dan Sullivan.

It asks one simple question…

(Turns out, it’s not simple at all, but it sure is thought provoking!)

The question goes like this: 


“If we were having this discussion three years from today, and you were looking back over those three years, what has to have happened in your life, both personally and professionally, for you to feel happy with your progress?”

Deep. 

Powerful.

It sure makes you think! 

I spent some time sitting with this question… I reflected on it. I journaled it. 

After doing so, I now know the obstacles that are in my way. And I know what strengths I’ll need to harness to overcome them. 

I feel like I have a direction. I know my path.

This question provided a whole lot of clarity for me. 

Which is why I’m sharing it with you! 

I hope you can find some clarity with this question too! And take that clarity with you into 2023.

Feel free to meditate on it. Journal it. Contemplate it. 

Most importantly, realign with it often! 

(I’ve already stuck a sticky note on my desk to remind me each time I need to come back to it! To refocus on the bigger mission ahead…)

And if you’re up for it…. Share your contemplations with me! 

I’d love to hear YOUR intentions for yourself this new year! 

With love,

Miss T.

Mental health, Mindset, Stress / Anxiety

Traumatic Wisdom: How To Use Setbacks As Fuel to Your Fire

We are all one.

Although we are all one, it doesn’t mean we’re all the same.

As we grow up, it becomes apparent that we all come from different walks of life.

We have different life experiences.

Some very privileged experiences – Some of us were born with opportunities others could never have dreamed of.

Some very disadvantaged experiences – Some of us have been carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders since day 1.


Some of this heavy weight becomes trauma. Trauma that’s become embedded in us. 

These life experiences – whether advantaged, disadvantaged or somewhere in between – shape us. They change us and mold us into the beings that we are today. 

Sometimes these life events set us back. 

Sometimes they hold us back.

Sometimes they become the reason for not living up to our full potential. 

But what we don’t always know – and what I wish someone would have told ME when I was growing up – is that these events, these struggles, these traumas…

… Don’t HAVE to hold us back. 

Yes, these experiences shape us, a part of them is ingrained in us forever. 

And yes, they have a drastic impact on who we are and the people we become. 

BUT –

They do not limit you. 

Or limit the person you can become.

Traumatic Wisdom

I was first introduced to this term by Dr. Gabor Mate, a renowned speaker, and bestselling author who specializes in addiction, stress, trauma and childhood development.

“Trauma cannot always be conquered, fixed, or resolved, but it can be heard, held and loved.”

Dr. Gabor Mate

Dr. Gabor Mate opened my eyes. He reminded me that we cannot change or always resolve our traumas. But we can choose to understand them and use them as fuel towards a better future for ourselves.

His words helped me in my own personal life, but also helped me in my work with my students – many of which came from traumatic backgrounds that I never dreamed of imaginable. 

I could help my students make sense of their traumas. 

To help them understand all of us carry trauma – although it may look different. 

That trauma comes in different forms and manifests differently for everyone.

And to remind them (and myself)…

That they have the power to change their course

That they don’t have to remain a victim of their circumstances.

The Power of Choice

The thing is, we always have a choice.

We have a choice in perspective.

A choice in how we see our circumstances.

A choice to use our circumstances and life experiences as setbacks or opportunities.

Choice is the most powerful thing in the world. And can be used in the most powerful of ways

As long as we can be conscious of the fact that we ALWAYS have a choice.

We can ALWAYS alter our course.

And with that, I’ll leave you with one final quote:

“I am not a product of my circumstances, I am a product of my decisions.”

– Stephen R. Covey

With love,

Miss T.

Mindfulness, Mindset

The Ultimate Happiness Equation: Is Happiness Really Something We Can Attain?

Humans work hard every day to reach their goals.

Sometimes we think if we work and work and work, we’ll get to this ultimate point in our lives. The high point of true happiness…

We think:

“I’ll be happy when I’m rich…”

“I’ll be happy when I’m retired…”

“When I finally have freedom, I’ll be happy…”

But, It Doesn’t Work This Way…

We will never get to this point of completion. Because the reality is, we are always growing. Always changing. Always reaching towards new goals.

There is no point waiting for happiness to reach this point.

This point will never come…


Learn To See Happiness In Growth.

It really is a simple equation to happiness.

Happiness = Growth

There is no happiness in stagnancy.

In fact, I’d say the equation would look something like this…

Stagnancy = Madness.

Because when we are stagnant… when we remain the same… When we are waiting to reach a certain point in our lives that will never come, we become depressed. The opposite of happiness.

This is true madness.

“Happiness is neither this thing nor that…. It is simply growth. We are happy when we are growing.”

-William Butler Yeats

We Are Happy When We Are Growing.

When we stretch our minds and learn new things. When we open our minds to different viewpoints and challenge our existing beliefs.

When we continuously set new goals and when we are accepting of the fact that we will ALWAYS be setting goals.

That we will ALWAYS be growing…

Be Happy Now.

Happiness is a choice.

You can choose to see it as something you attain, or you can choose to see it as something you experience everyday.

That you experience while you Grow. Learn. Change.

Remember, you will never reach a point of completion. You will never reach ultimate happiness.

But, you can choose to see it in the growth of each day.

With love,

Miss T.

Mindfulness

The Science Behind Circles: What’s So Special About Circles And Why YOU Should Take Advantage Of Their Power

5 years ago, in my little Grade 1 & 2 opportunity classroom*, we began our days the same way each day…  

The pitter patter of little feet shuffled in the door and across the classroom to our “cozy carpet corner.” Here, my partner teacher would greet each one of them, inviting them to sit down. 

Each little bum would find a spot on the carpet, making a circle with their peers and the classroom teacher. You can bet that I joined them too… 😉

Our morning circle on the cozy carpet was our opportunity to come together and connect before we began the rest of our day. We’d say good morning to all of our classroom friends and everyone would have the opportunity to share what was on their mind or how they were feeling that day.

Even my most anxious students eagerly awaited their turn to speak at morning circle.

Gathering in a circle on the carpet became a ritual in our little classroom.

But, it’s not an uncommon one…

Gathering in circles has been a common occurrence throughout history. From King Arthur’s knights at the round table to our Indigenous peoples celebrating and storytelling around a fire.

Coming together in a circle is a part of our primitive roots. 

Human beings have been doing so for as long as we can remember – Or, as long as we can find records of.

But Why? What’s So Special About Circles?

Circles are repeatedly found all throughout nature. 

Just think about it for a moment… What greets us in the morning sky each waking day? And what lights up the darkness at night? 

Yes, I’m well aware that the moon isn’t ALWAYS out at night. It’s on a different cycle and makes its appearance during the day sometimes too. In fact, one morning I was greeted by BOTH the sun and moon! – How magical!

Moving on…

We too, are a part of nature. It’s part of who we are and why we have this internal longing to connect through circles.

But, I Wonder… Is There Something More To It? Is There Science Behind The Power Of Circles?

Researchers have been busy studying the circle…

And they’ve started to learn more and more about why the circle is so apparent in our history and why we are drawn to gathering in them – Why it’s in our nature to gather in them.

Circles, unlike other rigid shapes, provide a sense of security. A safety net.

When we form a circle, all ranks of authority seem to disappear…

No one is sitting up higher than another. No one is in front of another.

We are all the same distance apart.

It’s because of this that we feel a sense of security and unity in our circles.

We feel a part of a community.

We feel like we belong to something bigger than ourselves.

And we KNOW that belonging and connection is a human need. We have a NEED to belong.

When We Gather In A Circle Of A Group We Belong To, We Can Let Our Guards Down. 

We can open up. 

It is in circles where we feel most safe and can openly express ourselves authentically – without fear.

I was attending a Professional Development session led by some Psychologist (Wish I would have remembered to take their name down…) where I was first exposed to the science behind circles…

After that, I began noticing ALL the circles in my life and my past experiences where the safety net of a circle rang true.  

Not just from when I was a kid… But even more recent experiences too!

At the time, I had just started going to a new CrossFit gym. Being new to the area (and new to CrossFit in general), I found myself a little intimidated…

Typically, when I’m nervous…. I don’t say too much. But…

This CrossFit gym must have understood the power of circles too and helped me (and many others) open up.

At the beginning of each group class, we’d gather in a circle for a quick introduction and a little icebreaker “Question of the Day”. 

It was in this circle, I could authentically be me. And others could authentically be them.

(You would have never been able to tell who the introverts at the gym were!)

Because in that circle, everyone, if only for a moment, was an extrovert. 

Everyone was equal.

This CrossFit gym was KNOWN for its community. It had one of the tightest and welcoming communities thanks to its amazing coaches and their understanding and utilization of circles.

(I swear I’m not just saying that because one of the coaches is my boyfriend now… 😉)

I saw first hand why the circle represents unity…

And WHY we should continue to follow in our primitive roots. 

Especially in a time of high anxieties and worries. 

I hope this blog post inspires you to be on the lookout for circles in your own life and maybe even lead a few circles of your own.

With love,

Miss T.

*Opportunity Classroom – One of many special needs program, specifically for cognitive delays


Need Some Ideas?

Here are 6 Tips to Get You Started:

Whether you have your own classroom, manage a company, or have a family at home, you can apply these suggestions to your life and adapt them to fit your lifestyle and/or career.

  1. Hold Weekly/Monthly Sharing Circles

    I used to hold sharing circles with my students. Sometimes we just need to get something off our chest in order to move on with our days. Be respectful of one another. Have rules in place that prevent people from interrupting one another. With young children, a talking stick works magic here! If you’re unfamiliar with talking sticks, the rule is simply whoever holds the stick is the speaker at the moment while everyone else is listening compassionately. The speaker passes along the stick to the next person when they’re done. (Tip: For children, a sand timer is a wonderful cue to help children get out their thoughts but also be respectful of the next person’s time to speak… Come to think of it, I know some adults who could use a sand timer too… 😉)
  1. Icebreaker ‘Question of the Day’ Circles

    This is similar to what my Crossfit gym would do at the beginning of each group class. This is fun to try with a new group of people to get them to open up, but it could also be done among peers. In the classroom to start off your day or a certain block, in staff meetings to get a meeting started with some lightness, or even around the dinner table! The question could be ANYTHING! From more serious questions like “What are you grateful for?” to something silly like “If you had to pick between eating a donut from the garbage or going to work with stained clothes, what would you choose?”
  1. Mindfulness or Meditation Circles

    Collectively meditating, chanting or simply breathing together is POWERFUL. Doing so in a circle… even MORE powerful! Whether you have a classroom or club (like I used to), or work in an office with a team, everyone can benefit from a collective breath before proceeding with their day. Even consider doing this at home with your family! Take a deep breath before your meal. Or gather in a quick circle for a deep collective family breath before leaving your home to take your children to school.
  1. Circles around the Campfire (Storytelling, Singing, Dancing or just Having Fun!)

    This is probably something you do anyway but didn’t realize how powerful and unifying it is! Keep doing it, just be intentional about it. Get together with friends or family and spend time together. If someone knows how to play guitar, great! Get them to bring it along and sing a few songs together (Singing holds a powerful vibration of its own – more on that in another blog post). Or tell stories – real life or spooky ghost stories. Whatever floats your boat! 
  1. Arrange Your Furniture in a Circle

    I’ve only ever seen this done once in a classroom, but it would be cool if your students could go to class each day and really feel a part of the community you created! How about during staff meetings? Scrap the typical seating and move your chairs in a circle! I bet more people would start speaking up… What about at home? Can you rearrange your couches in a circular shape or sit at a round dining table more often?
  2. Hold Celebratory Circles

    Celebrating a birthday or someone special? What about when someone hits their targets at work or gets a promotion? I challenge YOU to find a quick minute to come together in a circle and celebrate! Celebrating others makes them and us feel great. And sadly, it’s not done enough… We don’t always “have the time” to celebrate others. Or, at least we think we don’t have the time… That celebration could be as quick and a congratulations and a group cheer or sing happy birthday! Look for those quick moments! You won’t regret it!
Mindfulness, Mindset

Mindfulness Myths: Is Mindfulness For You?

When we think of Mindfulness, we often picture someone sitting cross-legged, eyes closed in a deep meditation, with a single goal of emptying the mind…

And while meditation CAN be a practice of Mindfulness, Mindfulness is not solely Meditation.


Unfortunately, people disregard Mindfulness because they think

“I can’t sit still for THAT long.”

Or…

“It’s impossible to NOT think!”

But Mindfulness is so much more than that!

Let’s Bust Our Preconceived Notions of Mindfulness.

Mindfulness is defined as being consciously aware of something…

… and this something can be ANYTHING!

Mindfulness is:

  • Taking a walk out in nature and fully immersing yourself in your surroundings
  • Mindfully eating a meal and using all 5 senses to heighten your food experience
  • Having a deep conversation and participating in active listening – this means not pulling out your phone mid-convo to answer a text…

All of these activities, as simple as they are, are a form of mindfulness.

Mindfulness doesn’t have to be complex. It just needs your presence.

Let’s Reframe Our View of Mindfulness.

It doesn’t have to be something we “add” into our day.

I want you to take a look at your schedule, right now. What do you have planned for the day? Can you do any of those activities mindfully?

Can you be fully present and engaged in your meetings?

Can you put your phone away at the dining table?

Can you limit your desire to multi-task and focus on one task at a time?


Mindfulness is a habit that can be built into our days. All it takes is a little creative thinking.

What do we get in return for living mindfully?

Mindfulness gives us back our lives. It allows us to get out of our own heads and into the “now.”

No more missing out on the life that is right in front of you.

It is time to experience every moment as it comes.

And I mean, REALLY experience it. All of it.

With love,

Miss T.

Environmental, Mindfulness, Mindset

Winter Blues? How I Finally Embraced This Upcoming Cold Season (And How You Can Too!)

Depending on where you are in the world, you might just be experiencing Fall weather… or Summer weather… or even Winter weather!

Here in Edmonton, Canada, Winter has arrived early! 

(Apparently old man winter didn’t quite check the calendar and is a little ahead of schedule :P)

But, that’s pretty typical here where I live. 

Despite the fact each year I hope and pray that winter doesn’t actually show up till Christmas time. 

Here’s the thing, I am NOT a winter person… 

Every year, I absolutely dread the arrival of winter (Yes, I know what you’re thinking.. Why haven’t I moved to somewhere warmer yet?!). 

Unlike many of my Canadian friends, I’m not big into winter sports or activities. There’s nothing for me to look forward to in winter…

Instead, I’m forced to say goodbye to hot weather, my garden, and days at the beach…

I Can’t Stand The Cold! 

I have poor circulation so that sure as heck doesn’t help me out. 

My skin dries out. My lips crack. My hair is a big ball of static electricity… 

Overall, not a great time…

BUT

In the last few years, specifically, once I moved outside the city and onto my old acreage, I’ve started to find the beauty in winter. 

Yes, I still dread it when it approaches (I’m a summer baby after all and I LIVE for the summer). But once it arrives, I find myself actually appreciating this season of cold.

Winter is a time to slow down. It reminds me that I am also a part of nature and it’s in my nature to slow down. To rest. To recuperate.

I am such a busy body – I love learning and doing. And all year long I spend my days hustling and bustling.

It’s too easy to forget to rest. 

But Winter… It forces me to rest. 

It forces us all to slow down and give into the natural season of hibernation. 

I’m Finding My Peace With Winter. 

And oddly, actually looking forward to life slowing down. 

(Trust me, 23 year old Cassandra would have NEVER thought this way before!)

But as I’m growing older, I feel a bit wiser. I feel like my perspective has changed about a lot of things – including the harshness of winter.

Don’t get me wrong, I still dislike the cold, and I won’t be the person who braves the outdoors at -30…

But, I’m not hating it either. 

There’s a lot of beautiful parts of winter too… 

Yes in slowing down, but also physically too!

The way the snow covers the trees and the glisten and sparkle on the ground after a big snowfall, oh, and the mountains…. 

The way the snow covers the rocky mountains is to DIE for.

There’s a lot to be grateful for this season.

And I’m grateful that I am finally able to see it.

Hopefully you can find gratitude in winter too.

With love,

Miss T.

Health / Wellness, Mental health

Does Mindset Actually Matter? A Group of Hotel Maids and The Harvard Research Team Have The Answer!

We say we understand the importance of mindset.

But, we undervalue it. We downplay it.

It doesn’t often make it to the top of our priority list…

We put other things ahead of it.

And we don’t realize they go hand-in-hand.

Mindset plays a role in everything we do!

But why?

And how?

The Science of Epigenetics

Epigenetics is the study of how perception shapes our reality by affecting the way our genes work.

And no… I’m not talking about altering your genes!

Epigenetics explains how parts of our lives – like our environment, situations, our thoughts and behaviors (what we input) – can change the expression of our genes.

It doesn’t alter our genes. Our genes are still our genes.

But our perception can turn genes on and off – almost like a switch.

Perception Shapes Our Biology!

The things you tell yourself and what you perceive about yourself matter!

Thoughts and experiences shape you.

Who you are, who you become

Your whole reality is manifested by your thoughts. Your perceptions.

I want to share an example of how powerful our thoughts are.

There are many studies out there that prove this point, but here is one you’ll never forget…

Here is how we can harness the power of Epigenetics…


Case Study: Hotel Maids and Harvard.

Harvard Researchers took mindset to the test by monitoring a group of hotel maids.

The group was split into two:

  • An Informed Group
  • An Uniformed Group

The group of ‘informed’ individuals were shown that the work they do is considered good exercise. They gave multiple examples to point out all of the exercise they were getting on a daily basis.

All of the walking – up and down stairs. All of the vacuuming and toting around of heavy cleaning materials. All of the movement they did all day long.

The ‘uninformed’ group was told none of this. They proceeded to work as usual.

At the end of the study, SIGNIFICANT differences emerged between the two groups!


Nothing changed for the ‘uninformed’ group.

But for the ‘informed’ maids…

They became fitter AND healthier!

Their Daily Work Tasks and Behaviours Did NOT Change…

What Did Change Was HOW
They Viewed Their Work…

The ‘informed’ maids saw measurable improvements!

  • Decrease in Body Weight
  • Lowered Blood Pressure
  • Less body fat
  • Smaller BMI.

All of these changes came about, solely through how they perceived their work!

True Epigenetics at work!

Via the placebo effect…

This study showcases that the mindset we have about ourselves (or our work) can affect our reality. Right down to our biology!

How we see the world affects our life.

How we see ourselves affects our life.

With love,

Miss T.

Kids, Mindfulness, Uncategorized

Ground-Breaking News For Parents: How To Get Your Child To Listen!

How many times do you find yourself saying things like:

“Don’t forget to use your manners…”

“Please clean up your mess…”

“Don’t forget to wash your hands…”

Only to have a response like:

“NO!” Or, “BUT I DON’T WANT TO!”

It’s True… Sometimes We Struggle To Get Our Kids To Listen.

We repeat ourselves over and over again…

And, to no avail.

It’s a tiring battle…

It’s as if our kids are PURPOSELY doing the opposite!

So we try to beat them at their own game…

We pull out some ‘reverse psychology’ on them…

But, even that doesn’t work!

Because kids are smarter than that…

Kids Are Observant.

They can tell when you’re fooling. They can read your body language and they can tell by your tone.

They know you well.

Maybe even TOO well…


At the End of the Day, it Doesn’t Matter What you Say,

It Only Matters What you DO!

“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders,
but they have never failed to imitate them.”

-James Baldwin

Model It!

Modeling the behavior you want to see in your child is a MUST.

If you want your kids to use their manners, they must see YOU use your manners.

If you want your kids to clean up after themselves, they must see YOU cleaning up after yourself!

If you want your kids to practice hygiene, they need to see YOU practice good hygiene.

And no, you can’t just do it ONCE and call it a day… They NEED to see you repeat your ideal behaviour!

Why Do Kids Copy What They See?

Kids notice the actions of others through their Mirror Neurons.

Mirror Neurons are types of brain cells that pick up what others are doing around us.

When kids see others performing an action, their Mirror Neurons observe it and signal for our body to do the same.


Kids Learn Best Through Imitation.

They imitate what they see in order to learn new things and new skills.

And because you as parents spend the most time with your kids, what you DO, what they SEE you DO, matters the most!

This is a blessing and a curse.

A blessing because through our actions, we are able to mold our kids brains and shape them the way we desire.

A curse if we are not modelling the behaviour that we expect of our kids.

But I choose to see it as a blessing! An OPPORTUNITY even!

An opportunity because YOU as the parent have the power to choose your actions and words!

To inspire your children through your actions and words.

And what a power that is to have…

With love,

Miss T.

Mindset, self-development

Winners Never Quit – Scratch That – Real Winners Know WHEN to Quit!

Do you remember the quote:

“Winners Never Quit and Quitters Never Win?”

I do.

It was a message that was ingrained in my head as a kid.

It covered every inch of the school walls. I heard it countless times being shouted by parents ‘motivating’ their kids at soccer games. It was everywhere.

But… that doesn’t mean it’s correct…


Winners Know How To Quit.

I grew up with the notion that you should never quit, even if it kills you.

That winners never quit if they want to succeed.

As I grow older, I see the fault in this mentality. That this mentality can actually get us into trouble…

Yes, There is Value in Not Quitting.

Using grit to push through challenges.

Especially if those challenges are something you’re passionate about.

And, of course, if it actually makes sense..

If it’s realistic and feasible…

But if your challenges aren’t feasible, if they are not realistic, then why do you continue to push on?

You’ll only end up digging yourself into a bigger hole…

There is Value in Quitting Smartly!

Sometimes we stick with something that makes no sense simply because we’re already committed.

We don’t want to risk looking like a fool and going back on our words.

But… if you’re doomed to fail anyways, why press on?

Doesn’t that already make you a fool…?

Learn When To Pivot.

In Seth Godin’s book The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (And When To Stick), he describes this dip as this point of temporary set back.

When challenges come up, we find ourselves stuck in this dip.

Those with the “Winner Never Quit” mentality will keep pushing on, if it’s the last thing they do.

Some, never make it out alive.


But this dip… this is where the real winners ask themselves:

“Do I stick this out, or do I pivot?”

It’s okay to reevaluate your goals. To change directions.

In fact, sometimes it’s the smartest thing you can do!

Do It! Switch Gears! Quit!

Don’t get caught in the trap of “Winners Never Quit”. Don’t try to push through just because you’ve “committed.”

You are not a loser if you quit.

Real winners know WHEN to quit. They have the guts to quit.

Seth Godin said it best:

“Winners quit all the time. They just quit the right stuff at the right time.”

With love,

Miss T.