Health / Wellness, Mental health, Mindfulness, Mindset, Stress / Anxiety, Uncategorized

How to Live a Happier Life with this Mind-Blowing Mindset Shift

Do you struggle to find happiness in each day?

Are you always thinking:

“I wish life was easier.. I wish I had a better job…. I wish I could be happy…
I wish… I wish… I wish…”

Then you, my friend, are living in ‘The Gap.’

What is this Gap, you ask?

‘The Gap’, described by author Dan Sullivan, is this constant comparison we have of ourselves to our future, our goals, our ideals.

Unfortunately, when we are always comparing ourselves to where we want to be some day, we are spotlighting this gap.. of all we don’t have.

It’s too easy for us to get stuck in this cycle of thinking.

It’s easy because we are natural goal setters.

We work towards goals and strive for success.

And while setting goals is not a bad thing, if we are only measuring ourselves to our future goals, we will only see ‘the Gap.’

This can have detrimental effects on our happiness and well-being.

Here is what we need to do:
Shift our mindset from ‘The Gap’ to ‘The Gain’

‘The Gain’ is the opposite of ‘The Gap’.

Instead of measuring forward, we measure backwards. We can look back in time and measure our current selves to our old selves.

We are able to see how far we’ve already come.

We aren’t measuring ourselves to something external. We are shifting inward.

Now, don’t get discouraged is you find yourself in ‘The Gap’ from time to time…

Awareness of this mindset is key!

Awareness means we have the ability to choose another thought. Another mindset.

Awareness of ‘The Gap’, allows us to shift into ‘The Gain’!

To remind ourselves of our progress. Of how far we’ve already come.

To appreciate the experiences we’ve had and lessons learnt from those experiences.

To start thinking:

“Look how far I’ve come… I am grateful for where I am on this journey…
I’m grateful for all the lessons I’ve learned…. I’m grateful…. I’m grateful…. I’m grateful…”

Only by making this shift to see ‘The Gain’, can we be happy now.

Remember:

“Happiness is where you start, not where you finish…”

With love,

Miss T.


compassion, Education, Kids, Kindness, Mental health, Mindfulness, Uncategorized

I See You: You are MORE than Just a Number

Miss T, here!

I just finished re-reading ‘The Power of Moments’ by Chip & Dan Heath. (If you know this book, awesome! If you don’t… get yourself a copy!… There’s a reason I read it a second time around! :P)

I first read this book 2 years ago. One day recently, I started thinking about it. How I wanted to read it again. And refresh my memory of its many lessons.

Two days after that thought, the book ended up on my boyfriend’s doorstep… randomly, through a book exchange he was a part of… 

Talk about synchronistic!! 

I took it as a sign to start reading it again. It was just as good the second time around!

‘The Power of Moments’ a wonderfully inspiring book about how we can capitalize on and craft moments that have the power to be life-changing. (More on HOW in another blog post… :P)

One of the biggest takeaways from this book was:

The Power we have to Create Moments Through Simple Connection.

It is so easy for us to get lost in our day-to-day mundane tasks. We go through the motions; Do our jobs and cross things off our daily list.

Students, clients, and fellow staff members become 2 dimensional characters to us. It’s easy to forget there’s more beyond the surface of the people we interact with daily.

I know for myself, after working with the same students each day, it’s easy to lose sight of the human being behind the student. Too easy to focus on the daily to-do’s. Especially when it feels like there’s a million of them…

But the truth is: Our students, our kids, our coworkers, are more than just a number, or a ‘to-do’ to cross off a list. 

They have their own identity. And with their identity, comes a whole background of experiences and moments that shaped them into who they are.

It is important for us to acknowledge each individual identity. After all, we are all different in some way. We’ve had different experiences that all led us up to this one moment. HOW we got here matters just as much, if not more, than the fact that we are here. 

Its our human nature to want to be seen and heard. To be noticed and acknowledged.

The authors of this book suggest a reframe to our thinking… 

Instead of always asking
“What is the matter with you?”,


we simply ask instead
“What MATTERS to YOU?”

See how powerful that statement change is?

We get lost trying to assess and fix problems, we often forget to consider the individual as a whole.. Their feelings and their experiences.

I wanted my students to know that they were loved and heard. I wanted them to feel appreciated, down to their very core.

During a Wednesday afternoon in Mindfulness Club, I brought in different coloured sheets of paper, markers, and crayons. I explained we would be mindfully working on a little project called:

“What matters to me!”

I reminded all of my students that although we are all in the same place, we all have different stories and backgrounds. There are certain things and experiences that make us, us. And how important all of our individual stories are. How those stories deserved to be acknowledged. 

And so, we all had the opportunity in Mindfulness Club, that day, to create our own “What Matters to Me” poster (myself included!) so that everyone around us could see our stories. So they could see what lies beneath.

A one-day-project, turned into a whole-month-project!

Because my kiddos had so much they wanted to share about themselves!

They shared about their families and their experiences. About certain memories that stood out in their minds. About the things they liked and the things they didn’t. Some were personal. Some were sad. 

All were so very beautiful in their own ways.

I learned a lot of things that day. About my students… About our own stories…

About making sure those stories are heard and understood. 

What I’ll remember the most about that day, is the way their eyes lit up just because someone listened…

I really do believe it is as simple as acknowledging those around us. 

Seeing them… I mean, really seeing them. 

We all deserve to be seen.

And the most wonderful part about that…

Is that WE have the power to give others the acknowledgement they deserve…

…the acknowledgement they need.

With Love,

Miss T.