Author: Cassandra Troughton

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Would You Be Proud of Me Now?

Cassandra Troughton

15 whole years.

15 whole years have passed since you left this earth.

Since you left me…

It’s crazy to think I’ve gone this long in life without your hugs, your love, your guidance.

To have gone this long without hearing your voice…

You were my best friend… The woman who taught me nearly everything I know.

It’s true.

Of course my parents were a BIG part of my life and shaped the person I am today.

But you…

You impacted me in more ways than I can say.

The things you taught me, the lessons you shared, stuck with me to this day.

They’re the lessons I keep coming back to on the daily. 

Lessons that live on in the smallest, most ordinary moments of my life.

Everything I do reminds me of you.

Like how I cook and bake in the kitchen (I still use your recipes, just “vegan-versions” now).

And the way I brush my hair (you always told me to start with the ends first to avoid pulling my hair so badly – you were right).

The way I do dishes even (how I scrape at the pesky stuck-on food with my nails instead of pulling out the scrubber again).

And when I do that…

… my hands remind me of yours.

I see you in me all the time.

Especially when the sun hits my hair just right – I catch the red gleam in it that came from you. 

You always used to say how “blessed” I was to have dark hair and dark eyes. 

You loved my features.

At the time, I wanted nothing else than to look more like you and the rest of our family – blonde or red hair, blue or green eyes…

But I get it now. 

I’m grateful for who I am. And I’m grateful that you saw the beauty in me before I did.

Thank you for loving me unconditionally.

I miss your love more than you know.

Last month, a video popped up on my instagram feed of these adult grandchildren all surprising their grandma with a sleepover.

All I could think was… I wish…

I wish that was me… 

I wish I was the one sleeping over at your house again…

I miss our sleepovers.

I miss waking up to the smell of fresh buns baking in the oven.

I miss making popcorn for movie nights on the “chesterfield” (I miss that you even called the couch a chesterfield – I haven’t heard that word said out loud in 15 years).

I miss the way you’d say, “that better not be your mom calling again,” every time the phone would ring (and of course it was her).

I miss getting home-baked cookies for my birthday every year – my favourite cookies, dream cookies.

(You’d tell me they were boring and you didn’t understand why they were my favourites, but you baked them every single year anyways)

Thank you for that.

It breaks my heart every year when I have to bake my own birthday cookies. 

They’re never as good as yours.

Sometimes dad tries to make them for me – and I greatly appreciate the gesture…

But his are even worse than mine. 

I try to bake his favourite cookies for his birthday too, the Chocolate drops you’d bake him every year, and I know he thinks the same thing.

We miss you.

I miss you.

I miss everything about you.

Even your music – the funny old songs you’d listen and sing along to.

The songs on the mixtape that Grampa made you. 

I used to have all of those songs on my old iTunes – I downloaded them when you passed away.

But I lost access to my old iTunes. And I lost them all…

Jaclyn asked me about that mixtape recently and those songs… So I went on a searching-spree…

I could remember at least 2 of them and thanks to YouTube suggestions, ChatGPT brainstorming (I know, I know… you’d probably boycott this technology right alongside the cellphone you refused to get), and with help from dad and Jacyln… 

We managed to find almost all of those songs.

I listened to that entire playlist of your songs as I wrote this. 

They reminded me so much of you, of Grampa. 

They took me back to your living room, listening to them on Grampa’s “new” stereo (the giant one that has both a cassette player and CD player), singing them out loud.

I can still hear your voice singing along to them in my head… 

15 whole years.

15 whole years without hearing your voice out loud like that.

15 whole years without you in my life.

That’s a long time – too long of a time. 

I often wonder what you’d think of me now, of who I’ve become.

Would you be proud of me and everything that I’ve accomplished?

Would you still be cheering for me on the sidelines?

Just like you used to when I was a kid.

I don’t know for sure, but I’d like to think that you would be.

I’d like to think that you’d still be by my side, still supporting me – even after all the stupid things I did in my 20’s. 

That you’d tell me “it’s okay, you needed to go through that in order to become who you are today, Cassie-coo-coo.”

That you’d tell me you love me and hold me tight. 

I don’t know for certain… And I guess I never will. 

But in my head, at least, that’s how I’ll imagine it.

With love,
Miss T. (A.k.a. Cassie-coo-coo) 💕

Kindness, Mindset, Self-development

What Driving Home From the Gym Made Me Finally Admit to Myself

Cassandra Troughton

As I drove home from an early gym session this morning, a flood of emotions hit me.

I haven’t sat down and written a blog post in a while. But with all the feels I was feeling and all the thoughts that swirled around in my head…

… I felt really inclined to write everything down – to write this post. 

So here it goes…

Driving the Nelson streets this morning and seeing the beautiful tree-covered mountains towering over me…

I was quickly reminded that I’m here – I made it.

Ever since I was a kid, vacationing in BC every summer, I told myself, “One day, I’ll live here. One day this will be my home.”

I was a young and naive child. A child with big dreams. 

A child who thought she was invincible.

I used to do scary things on the daily – without any fear of the repercussions that could follow.

As I got older, things changed.

I enjoyed my comfort zone more and more.

Sure, I still did small things that pushed me outside the limits of that zone from time to time, but I always stayed within a short distance of its parameters.

Just close enough to the edge so I could jump back into it if I needed to – If I got too scared. 

But as I drove home this morning from the gym, a realization hit me…

It finally registered just how much I’ve leaped outside of that comfort zone.

I moved away from everything and everyone I knew – my family, my friends, my home for the last 30 years.

I moved to a new city… where I knew no one. Not a single person (Well, except for the 70+ year old lovely old lady who lives in Salmo 40 minutes away).

I put myself out there – way out there – and made new friends.

I joined a new gym. I honestly never thought I’d step inside another crossfit gym again, but here I am – connecting with a new crew and getting comfortable with the uncomfortable again.

I published a book! As if that isn’t vulnerable enough… I’ve been promoting my book – stepping into bookstores and local shops to share my story with them. 

I’ve been sending out email after email, connecting with new, like-minded people all across BC and Alberta.

Putting my heart, my story, and my words out into the world for everyone to see.

I started public speaking again – virtually and in person. 

I used to fear public speaking, and I mean really fear it. So much that in school I would have panic attacks and beg my mom to call the teacher to ask if I could present to her alone during recess.

But here I am… again.

I’ve even tried new things – ultimate frisbee, overnight hiking/camping, skiing (and failed horribly I might add) – I may not attempt skiing again, but dang, at least I tried.

And you know what?

I’m really, really proud of myself.

Don’t get me wrong, this past year has been HARD – one of the hardest years of my life.

Filled with a plethora of struggles, new challenges, self-doubt, and major setbacks.

But despite it all… 

I’m proud of me.

Of who I’ve become – who I’ve grown into. 

Proud of the discomfort I’ve put (okay… forced) myself into. 

And proud of my growth through all the pain.

I don’t say that often. Actually, I almost never admit that…

And I know I’m not the only one. 

Maybe it’s hard for you to be proud of yourself too – to give yourself the acknowledgement and credit you deserve.

It’s a lot easier for us to see the light in others than it is to see the light in ourselves. 

But… it’s there – shining brightly.

You do amazing, powerful and scary things every day. And they don’t go unnoticed.

(Well, maybe they go unnoticed – unacknowledged – by you, but it’s my hope that this post will change that).

I hope you’ll read this and then look at your own life, your own challenges, your own baby steps (aka LEAPS) outside of your comfort zone…

… And realize just how far you’ve come.

How much credit you really deserve for all you’ve done, and all you continue to do.

And if you haven’t told yourself this yet today (but I hope you take a moment to do so right now), just know…

I’m proud of you too.

With love,

Mindful Miss T.
(And the many, many different versions of me)

Health / Wellness, Mental health, Self-care, Stress / Anxiety, Yoga

Unlocking the Benefits of a Morning Meditation and Yoga Routine

Cassandra Troughton

Today, Let’s Go Back

Way back… 

Back when I first started as an Educational Assistant in a special needs classroom right here in Alberta, Canada. 

This career path as an Educational Assistant was not the job I intended to take after high School. 

To be honest, the transition into adulthood was a stressful time in my life. Adulthood hit me smack in the face at 19 years old. Reality set it and I realized I had to do something with my life. And I had to do something quick…

I opted to follow in my mother’s footsteps, who was a classroom Educational Assistant herself. 

Although it was not a planned intention, I found my purpose in the classroom. I loved supporting these kiddos. I loved being able to make a difference in little lives.

As a new and enthusiastic Educational Assistant, I kept busy to stuff the stress of the realities of being an adult… You know the stresses – bills, taxes, college debt… 

So, I committed fully to my work. I helped out where help was needed. I said yes to anything anyone asked of me.

I tired out quickly… 

Little did I know, I was on the path towards burnout early in this new career.

At the end of each day, I’d get in my car and prepare myself for an hour-long drive home. Get home and scrape up whatever energy I had left to cook supper. Immediately after, I’d head to bed in sheer exhaustion. 

Going all-in to my new job was not the answer to my stress.

Feeling depleted each morning (Let me tell you, I hated mornings…), I would set my alarm to get up at the last possible moment that would have me out the door and on time for work. 

I’d get to work, get busy, and repeat the cycle – all. over. again.

It didn’t matter how much extra sleep I’d get, I never felt rested. 

I was tired, groggy. I stopped going to the gym. My health suffered – mentally and physically. 

I needed to make a change.  

Here’s the thing: I love learning! I’m a real book nerd if I do say so myself (and a proud one)!

When things aren’t working, I read, I research. And I implement.

I happened upon some books and articles that spoke about the benefits of a solid morning routine – Waking up earlier to start a morning meditation and yoga practice and get the brain going with some reading and journaling.

At first, I thought it was crazy… 

How could getting up even earlier in the mornings make me LESS tired? 

How is losing sleep supposed to give me more energy?

I was skeptical, but I couldn’t help but give it a try.

And you know what… It worked! 

This was 7 years ago now and since I’ve started a morning meditation and yoga routine, I’ve NEVER looked back. 

Turns out, I actually LOVE mornings now. 

All these years I’ve been getting up each weekday morning at 4am – Call me crazy, but I love the dark quiet and peacefulness of the early mornings.

(But don’t worry, I do listen to my body when my body tells me I need some extra sleep).

I begin each morning with meditation, yoga, reading and journaling. 

And because of it, I found myself having an abundance of energy. I’ve found myself happier and healthier. I’ve found myself more cognitively aware. And more productive! 

Who would have thought that sacrificing just a bit of sleep for a solid morning routine could do all that?! 

How It Works!

Studies have shown that a morning routine that incorporates meditation and yoga can improve physical and mental wellness! When we are mentally and physically at our peak, we receive plenty of benefits throughout our day – like a boost in energy and productivity!

Yoga and meditation reduces stress, improves sleep quality, increases focus, and enhances cognitive function – It improves our ability to rationalize and make better choices. 

We change on a physiological level – our brain experiences changes in activity, our heart rate changes, and our bodies begin to release different hormones like cortisol and dopamine. 

These physiological changes are directly related to cognitive and emotional changes – Our mood improves, we begin to foster a positive outlook on life, motivation and energy levels increase – all of which are essential for a productive day!

You can capitalize on these benefits by scheduling your meditation and yoga routine at the beginning of each day!

Doing so will set the tone for your day ahead!

Looking for some tips to getting a morning routine going?

Stay tuned for my next post where I’ll break down 7 crucial tips for establishing a consistent morning routine – and LOVING it!

Until then –

If you’re curious about what books I read about routines, check out this one:

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.

I read quite a few, but this one impacted my routine the most. It’s short and simple.

Its simplicity saved my life.

With love,

Miss T.

Health / Wellness, Mental health, Mindfulness, Mindset, Self-care, Stress / Anxiety, Uncategorized

How Heart Coherence Changes Your Life: Simple Practices with Big Benefits

Cassandra Troughton

Let’s talk about Heart Coherence!

You’ve heard me preach it before (And I promise you, this won’t be the last time either 😉)…

What is Heart Coherence?

Heart coherence is used to describe a state of harmony and balance between the heart, mind, and body. 

In this state of balance and harmony, our heart rhythm pattern becomes highly ordered, and this has some seriously amazing implications on our health and mental wellbeing!

According to the HeartMath Institute, heart coherence has been shown to reduce stress, improve immune function, and enhance cognitive performance. 

Heart Coherence leads to a sense of calm, clarity, focus, and resilience.

All of this means less sick days, a better memory recall, more peace in your life, and…

A happier, healthier you!

Who wouldn’t want that?

(Now you understand why I preach Heart Coherence – Because I want this so bad for YOU too!)

Okay, so we know what Heart Coherence is… And how it can benefit us…

But HOW do we get into this state? 

Don’t worry, it’s not as complicated as it sounds!

In fact, here are three simple mindfulness practices you can try today:

First up, Heart-Focused Breathing. 

This technique involves breathing in and out through your heart center. This helps you shift your focus away from distracting thoughts, and allows you to focus on the present moment instead. 

By shifting your focus to the present moment of your heart beating, you create a positive emotional state. You increase the coherence between your heart and brain. And it will leave you feeling calm, centered, and ready to tackle whatever comes your way!

Next, Let’s Talk Gratitude. 

Practicing gratitude is all about shifting your focus from negative thoughts to positive ones. 

By focusing on things you’re grateful for, you activate the heart’s electromagnetic field, leading to a state of coherence! Not only does it feel great to appreciate the good in life, but you’re also attracting more positivity into your world.

Last But Not Least, The Quick Coherence Meditation Technique. 

This guided meditation technique, by The HeartMath Institute, is designed to help you achieve a state of coherence by synchronizing your heart and brain rhythms – and QUICKLY!

This technique has been shown to help reduce stress, improve sleep, and enhance cognitive performance. Plus, it’s a great way to connect with your intuition, creativity, and inner wisdom.

To learn more about this meditation for this right here.

Or check out their guided meditation on Youtube here:

So, there you have it! Simple enough right?!

So simple that you can do it TODAY!

And by incorporating these simple practices into your daily routine, you can create a sense of calm and balance in your life. 

“When your heart is coherent, you’re more in tune with your intuition, your creativity, and your inner wisdom.” 

-HeartMath Institute

So please, take a few minutes each day to tune into your heart, and just watch how it transforms your life.

Heart coherence is truly a beautiful thing…

With love,

Miss T.

Health / Wellness, Mindfulness

Catching The Travel Bug: 11 Epiphanies I Had During My Trip to Mexico

Cassandra Troughton

Miss T. here!

Back from Mexico and feeling REFRESHED!

It’s been about a week since I returned home. I took the last week off to slowly ease back into my normal routine. 

Now that I’m back in full swing, I’m going to share with you some ‘aha’ moments that I had during my travels to Mexico! 

I want to preface this by saying… 

I’m Not Well Traveled…

In fact, this was only the second time that I had left the country at all. The first time being my trip to Las Vegas (And let me tell you, that was not really much of a cultured experience… 😛)

This was my first real experience diving right into a brand new culture – A new way of living… 

It was breathtaking… 

And left me feeling extra grateful for the sights I’d seen, things I experienced, and lessons I learned…

So –

I’m going to take a moment right here and share with you… 

11 Epiphanies I Had While I Was Away In Mexico: 

Ready? 

Let’s get into it!

1. Simplicity Is A Beautiful Thing

I mean, I knew this before… But this reality became that much more apparent being in a country doesn’t necessarily put convenience on a pedestal (Other than maybe at the resorts – which I did not stay at 😛). Rather, it emphasizes the simple things in life… Like being one with the natural wild surroundings, an abundance of art, culture and oneness of the community…

“Simplicity is the highest form of sophistication”
-Leonardo Da Vinci

2. Best Way To Learn A Language? Immerse Yourself In It!

I’ve heard this before, but this was the first time I ever experienced its truth! I had SO much more of an opportunity to learn Spanish just by speaking with the locals! (Or attempting to speak it… 😛) They also appreciate it a whole lot more than my family does – Not that my family doesn’t appreciate it, they just make fun of my Spanish a lot more… The locals might be thinking “that silly white girl”, but they sure aren’t saying it! They’re quite happy that people try!

[Side Realization: I still need to get better at Spanish and Duolingo just ain’t cutting it! – Might be time to hire a tutor!]

3. There Is Nothing More Magical Than The Jungle 

Sights, sounds and ALL! Oh man I love the forest, but the jungle… Oh, that jungle… Waking up each morning and doing yoga on the rooftop patio, looking out to the jungle span across our backyard was something I can’t quite explain. Hearing the exotic bird noises, the rustle of the wind through the trees, and watching our monkey friends swing across the trees each day on their journey to who knows where. Going into the jungle… Getting up close and personal with it… Oh man – I have NO words! 

4. Turns Out, I’m Not As Afraid Of The Ocean As I Thought…

Okay… I’m still actually afraid, because come on, who the heck ACTUALLY knows what’s down there?! That being said, I thought I was too afraid to go into the ocean at all… I anticipated not stepping foot into the deep waters… But apparently, when the water is crystal clear and the most magical turquoise, it’s actually quite inviting! (Oh, and did I mention WARM?!) SO AMAZING! Loved each moment I spent swimming there. And surprisingly, I wish I had a bit more time in the ocean! 😛

5. There ARE Vegan Options In Mexico 

A week before we left for Mexico, a thought hit me… I turned to Pete and asked him “Will we even be able to eat in Mexico?!” Haha, considering my Spanish family and background… and knowing what my family eats, I thought we were poop-out-of-luck! (Might have just had to forage for food in the jungle along with the monkeys… 😛) BUT – as luck would have it, there ARE vegan options, and vegan restaurants, and surprisingly… more than one! Haha, we ate well! Who would have thought?! 

6. What’s Underneath The Earth Is A Total Mystery

Have you ever seen a Cenoté? Considering I’m behind the times in traveling, my guess is you might have if you’ve ever been to Mexico (Or wherever else you can find Cenotés). And if you’ve never been… It’s an amazingly gorgeous cave that’s hidden right below your feet!!! The most unreal place in the world. RIGHT BELOW YOUR FEET!  It’s trippy to think a mere hole in the ground hiding such a magical place beneath the surface. It’s left me pretty curious about what else might be below our feet… 

7. The Sun in Mexico is REALLY Hot – You WILL Burn 

Yes, it’s true! Even with Spanish blood running through my veins, it did not protect me from the heat of the sun’s rays… All it took was  beach day and I was as red as a lobster! AND I even wore sunscreen (which I rarely do because I have serious concerns about the chemicals found in SPF’s). But this time, I made an exception… And I still burned. Next time, I’ll spend more time in the shade. Lesson learned.

8. People Don’t Listen To Signs… But They Will Listen To Topés! 

Tell people to slow down, and they won’t. Put up a giant speed bump at EVERY block and they WILL slow down. I’ve never seen so many speed bumps in my life! Haha, but the honest practicality of them made me giggle and think to myself “Oh yea, that makes sense!” Why put up a “slow down” sign when you can simply build a topé (speedbump)?! 😛

9. Travel More! EXPERIENCE MORE!

This trip left me thinking, “Why have I spent every Winter in Canada for the last 30 years?!” It’s time to get out into the world and travel! Get the hell out of the freezing cold winter, hop on a plane and surround myself in sunshine and new culture. Traveling to Mexico specifically made me want to experience other Spanish cultures too! I think a trip to South America is in my near future… Plus, since I work online these days… There is nothing holding me back! I can work from wherever I want in the world if I really want to! On my way to becoming a digital nomad!!

10. Sunrises And Sunsets In Mexico Are 1000x Better!

Sunrises and sunsets are gorgeous no matter where you are in the world. But let me tell you – They are 1000x better when you’re sitting on the rooftop, overlooking the jungle, listening to the sounds of exotic birds around you, coffee in your hand and you’ve got no place to be and nothing to do… (Okay, well except work, but even that ain’t so bad when you’re in Mexico! 😉) 

11. Plan For A Future In Mexico

Yes, Pete and I spent 5 days in Mexico and already had a plan to one day build a home there.. That’s all it took to sell us! (For marketers, we’re easy sells! 😛) We love the heat, the jungle (and there being SO much of it), the language, the culture, the simplicity, the ocean, and the food!! (Did I mention that fruits and veggies are also freaking fantastic in Mexico?!) We decided it’s the perfect place for us one day! 

Hope you enjoyed reading my Mexico epiphanies!

Until next time!

With love,

Miss T.

Compassion, Health / Wellness, Kindness, Mindfulness, Mindset, Self-care

Self-Talk: Why What We Say to Ourselves Matters

Cassandra Troughton

When was the last time YOU took inventory of your thoughts?

Specifically – The thoughts you have about YOURSELF…

Our Internal Dialogue

Self-talk is the voice inside our heads that commentates our life.

This internal commentator shares its thoughts on our actions, on our decisions, on our personality and even, our looks… It always seems to have an opinion…

And I’m going to be honest with you here… It’s not always the kindest opinion – It’s often a judgemental opinion. 

Our self-talk develops and changes based on our past experiences, and the people we spent the most time with. It develops based on how the people around us, especially those closest to us, spoke about themselves. 

Over time, this self-talk becomes deeply ingrained in us.  

We don’t always think about its implications, because of it being deeply ingrained into our system. We tend to dismiss the impact our self-talk has on our lives. 

In reality: The things that we say to ourselves matter. 

It matters because these things manifest our reality… They way we talk to ourselves shows up in our mental and physical wellbeing…

Negative Self-Talk: An Unhealthy Pattern

Negative self-talk pops into our heads in the form of self-criticism, doubt, and negativity. 

All too commonly, we tell ourselves: 

  • “I’m not good enough.” 
  • “I always mess things up.”  
  • “I’ll never be able to do it.” 

We set ourselves up for failure with such unkindness about ourselves.

By continually engaging in negative self-talk, we create a self-fulfilling prophecy that reinforces our negative beliefs and behaviours. 

We reinforce the cycle of negative self-talk. 

Escaping the Cycle

What about positive self-talk, then? 

It is an optimistic and encouraging internal dialogue that promotes self-confidence and self-esteem.

Positive self-talk sounds like this:

  • “I can do this.” 
  • “I am capable.” 
  • “I am worthy of love and respect.” 

This kind of self-talk helps us overcome obstacles, achieve goals, and maintain a positive outlook on life. Most importantly, it helps us to love and accept ourselves for who we are.

We can harness the power of positive-self talk to reverse the cycle.

Change is Hard… But NOT Impossible.

Trust me, I get it… Growing up in this day and age, in this world, poses a real challenge to unleash our confidence. To be vulnerable. An to accept ourselves for who we are.

It’s much easier to revert back to our deeply ingrained patterns of negative self-talk.

Our subconscious holds onto this pattern tightly – It doesn’t want to let the negative self-talk go. It’s all it knows after all… 

This negative pattern becomes our default mode. 

Here’s the thing: We CAN reverse this pattern. We CAN rewire our brains with a NEW default mode.

To rewire our brain and get ourselves out of this negative self-talk pattern, we need to do some serious brain training.

It’s time we become intentional about our positive self-talk!

We can interrupt self-defeating thoughts by redirecting to positive ones. 

Look, I’m not saying we’ve got to be perfect all. the. time.

We are human after all. Flaw is a part of our design.

But –

If we can begin to be conscious of these thoughts and redirect ourselves to choosing new thoughts, this is the start of a beautiful new life…

It’s as simple as catching yourself the next time you tell yourself: “Ugh, I’m so stupid…”, taking a pause (maybe a deep breath) and then re-telling yourself:

“Okay, I’m not stupid, it was only just a mistake. I’m actually a smart human who makes great choices. We’re all entitled to mistakes.” 

Manageable, right?

And the more we can get into the habit of catching ourselves, and redirecting ourselves, our brain will begin to change… And a new default mode takes over the subconscious mind!

I Used To Tell My Students

“Would you say those things to your best friend?”

The answer is almost always no. 

It’s easy to show compassion to our friends, why is it so hard to show compassion to ourselves?

I’m going to let you in on one last secret: You will be the best and longest friend YOU will ever have. 

You will always be there for you.

So, nurture the friendship you have with yourself well. It’s the most important friendship you’ll ever have. 

With love,

Miss T.

Mindfulness, Mindset

The Power of the Mind: Understanding How Beliefs Shape Our Reality

Cassandra Troughton

What if I told you that your reality was a lie?

Okay, not an actual lie –

But what might seem true to you, isn’t necessarily true for everyone. 

You only perceive it as true, because that’s all you know. It’s the only reality you’ve been exposed to.

Here’s the thing:

Over the course of our lives, our subconscious mind ingests everything around us. It ingests every experience, it ingests rules set by your parents growing up, it ingests rules imposed by society, it ingests the things we hear on the news, and the things we’ve read. 

The list goes on and on…

Now these external factors influence our perception and our beliefs. These perceptions and beliefs become established and engrained in our subconscious mind – To the point that we accept them as our true reality. 

Our subconscious mind accepts these beliefs as our reality.  

The Mind Can Be Programmed

In fact, it already has been programmed! 

From the moment we are born, our minds are programmed with certain beliefs and perspectives based on the information and experiences that are fed to us. 

And it continues to be programmed and reprogrammed based on the information and experiences you take in on the daily!

Our minds are easily influenced by the world around us. 

The thing is, our minds are incredibly powerful tools that have the ability to shape our reality. They shape our perceptions of reality and the beliefs systems we carry with us throughout our life.

Society Conditions Us from the Moment We Are Born

Society is one of the biggest influencers of our belief systems. 

The minute we take our first breath on this Earth, we are conditioned to believe certain things about the world and about ourselves. Society teaches us what is acceptable and what is not, what is possible and what is impossible, and what is true and what is false. 

Societal conditioning poses its limits on us…

We believe we are limited beings with limited potential. But this is far from true.

We have the power to rise above these self-imposed limits. 

The mind can be re-programmed just as easily as it was programmed. 

With awareness, we can rewire our minds to new possibilities and reach our full potential as human beings.

Reprogramming The Subconscious Mind 

It takes a conscious mind to reprogram the subconscious mind. 

A consistent and unrelenting conscious mind. 

Reprogramming requires a conscious effort and a willingness to let go of old beliefs that no longer serve us.

Instead, we can focus on new beliefs, take in new information, experience new experiences  and completely change reality for ourselves.

By thinking new thoughts and shifting into new experiences, we can literally change the way our brain works. 

Simply by being conscious of our thoughts and the information we feed our mind, and by making a conscious effort to shift it – To experience new things, read new books, and turn off the dang news…

We build new neural connections in our brains. We form new neural patterns. We form a whole new belief system.

We completely reprogram our subconscious mind…

Understanding The Power of Belief Systems

The takeaway is this: Our beliefs shape our perceived reality – They can limit us, or enhance us.

Our beliefs are like a lens through which we view the world, and what we see is a reflection of those beliefs. 

If we believe that the world is a place of scarcity, we will see scarcity everywhere. 

But if we believe that the world is abundant, we will see abundance everywhere. 

Our beliefs have a direct impact on what we attract into our lives, so it’s important to be mindful of the beliefs that we hold.

And even more important than simply being mindful of the beliefs we hold, to be mindful of the fact that we are capable of CHOOSING what beliefs we hold.

You are not powerless. 

You have the ability to shape your reality. YOU can shape and filter your beliefs. One conscious thought at a time..

You are The Creator of Your Own Reality

You are the creator of your own reality and hold the power to shape your beliefs and perspectives. 

You can reprogram your subconscious mind. 

You can create the reality you wish for yourself and free yourself from the confined restraints society had pre-imposed on you. You can expand your thinking. 

So, embrace your inner power.

Be conscious. 

And make the conscious choice to change your reality if it’s no longer serving you.

Because, now you know, it is completely possible! 🙂 

With love,

Miss T.

Mindfulness, Mindset, Self-development

Life Is A Classroom: Why Learning is Necessary Beyond the Classroom Walls

Cassandra Troughton

Earlier this month, we chatted about intentions…

And seeing that it’s still January, let’s elaborate a little more about starting the New Year off with intentions!

Why Intentions and NOT Resolutions?

I’ve mentioned this before, but I’m not a big fan of resolutions…

I find the idea of a new year’s resolution tends to be overwhelming. And more often than not, they set us up for failure. 

We build up this idea in our mind of all the goals we’ll crush and all the things we’ll accomplish, and when we fall short (even just a tad), we get down on ourselves. We give up.

For myself, I prefer to focus on setting intentions. For the year ahead. As well as for the day ahead.

An intention is a guiding principle or mindset that you want to adopt, rather than a specific goal. It can be a feeling you want to feel. Or the energy you want to bring with you into the year ahead.

There are many different ways to set an intention (and a whole lot less rules than setting goals or resolutions 😉)

Last week, I shared my intention setting with the help of the Dan Sullivan Question. This particular intention was geared towards the next three years of my life.

But for 2023… 

I Decided on Setting an Intention with my ‘Word of the Year’

This year, I’ve chosen my intentional word as “growth.” 

I’ve finally hit a point in my life where I’ve come to realize that we are always growing and always learning.

That we are meant to always grow and learn.

And that comfort and stagnation are not a part of our journey. There never will be a final comfortable destination in this beautiful human experience…

There will never be a point reached where we’ll say: “Okay, that’s it, I’ve learned all there is to learn in this life. I’m complete.”

It’s just not going to happen.

So instead, I’ll embrace the forever growth.

(Side note: Growth is not always linear… It’s more like a cycle… Like nature moving through seasons, our growth changes. Sometimes we grow up towards the sky. Other times we take a step back and shed our leaves. But even during those step backs, we grow from them. It is all part of the growth process.)

So this year, to follow through with my intentional word, I plan to say yes to the things I’ve always wanted to learn and try.

To start saying yes to the things I’ve always said:

“One day, I’d like to learn this…”

“One day, I’d like to try that…”

And we all know that “one day” just keeps slipping further away.

Until it never happens at all.

And let me tell you, I’m done putting off growth.

In the last quarter of 2022, I read the book “The 12 Week Year” by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington. This book shed some light on the fact that I have more time than I ever thought. That we all have more time than we think. 

And we are always capable of learning and growing – especially if it is something we prioritize because we truly desire it for ourselves.

I Desire Growth 

And I will do what it takes to keep this intentional promise I made with myself…

This year, I’ll be trying a whole lot of new things.

And learning a LOT more of the things I’ve always wanted to learn.

I hope that by sharing my intention of growth, it will inspire you to set your own intentions for the year. And to embrace the idea of forever growing.

Life Really Is One Big Giant Classroom.

Embrace each opportunity to learn and grow! Or MAKE your own opportunities!

I’m ready to make this year one of growth, one of trial and error, and one of learning from mistakes.

And perhaps, you’ll join me! 😉

With love,

Miss T.

Mindfulness, Mindset, Self-development

New Year, New Intentions: The SINGLE, Most Powerful Question You Can Ask Yourself in 2023

Cassandra Troughton

Happy New Year! 

I just love ringing in the New Year! It offers me a time to reflect…

So much has happened over this past year.

A lot of lows that turned into highs. 

A lot of synchronicities that I’m glad I followed. Even if they were heartbreaking at first. 

I was Forced to Pivot and Head into the Unknown…

But I’m grateful for them all! Every single experience…

Because they led me to where I am now. 

And boy, am I ever happy to be here. Right here. 

With Each New Year that Rolls Around,
We Reflect and then Redirect.

We redirect our paths. We set new goals for ourselves – To help along in this beautiful journey we’re all on. 

Yes, I goal set too. But, I don’t typically wait for the start of a new year to set goals.

I set them all the time! 

I Love Setting Goals. Crushing Goals. Changing Goals. 

It’s all part of the process of life. 

What I LOVE to do at the start of the year, though, is set my intentions. 

My intentions, not just for the year ahead, but for my future self.

I align myself with where my spirit wants to take me. I breathe in my intentions fully. 

In an attempt to live my intentions wholeheartedly. 

And yes, while you could say goals and intentions are one in the same – I consider them slightly different.

Goals are SPECIFIC – They have a beginning and an end.

Whereas my intentions are in alignment with my purpose, my mission (and are slightly more general).

I Read a Book at the End of 2022 that Helped me Set My Intentions Moving Forward

The book is titled: The Dan Sullivan Question, by (you guessed it!) Dan Sullivan.

It asks one simple question…

(Turns out, it’s not simple at all, but it sure is thought provoking!)

The question goes like this: 

“If we were having this discussion three years from today, and you were looking back over those three years, what has to have happened in your life, both personally and professionally, for you to feel happy with your progress?”

Deep. 

Powerful.

It sure makes you think! 

I spent some time sitting with this question… I reflected on it. I journaled it. 

After doing so, I now know the obstacles that are in my way. And I know what strengths I’ll need to harness to overcome them. 

I feel like I have a direction. I know my path.

This question provided a whole lot of clarity for me. 

Which is why I’m sharing it with you! 

I hope you can find some clarity with this question too! And take that clarity with you into 2023.

Feel free to meditate on it. Journal it. Contemplate it. 

Most importantly, realign with it often! 

(I’ve already stuck a sticky note on my desk to remind me each time I need to come back to it! To refocus on the bigger mission ahead…)

And if you’re up for it…. Share your contemplations with me! 

I’d love to hear YOUR intentions for yourself this new year! 

With love,

Miss T.

Mental health, Mindset, Stress / Anxiety

Traumatic Wisdom: How To Use Setbacks As Fuel to Your Fire

Cassandra Troughton

We are all one.

Although we are all one, it doesn’t mean we’re all the same.

As we grow up, it becomes apparent that we all come from different walks of life.

We have different life experiences.

Some very privileged experiences – Some of us were born with opportunities others could never have dreamed of.

Some very disadvantaged experiences – Some of us have been carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders since day 1.

Some of this heavy weight becomes trauma. Trauma that’s become embedded in us. 

These life experiences – whether advantaged, disadvantaged or somewhere in between – shape us. They change us and mold us into the beings that we are today. 

Sometimes these life events set us back. 

Sometimes they hold us back.

Sometimes they become the reason for not living up to our full potential. 

But what we don’t always know – and what I wish someone would have told ME when I was growing up – is that these events, these struggles, these traumas…

… Don’t HAVE to hold us back. 

Yes, these experiences shape us, a part of them is ingrained in us forever. 

And yes, they have a drastic impact on who we are and the people we become. 

BUT –

They do not limit you. 

Or limit the person you can become.

Traumatic Wisdom

I was first introduced to this term by Dr. Gabor Mate, a renowned speaker, and bestselling author who specializes in addiction, stress, trauma and childhood development.

“Trauma cannot always be conquered, fixed, or resolved, but it can be heard, held and loved.”

Dr. Gabor Mate

Dr. Gabor Mate opened my eyes. He reminded me that we cannot change or always resolve our traumas. But we can choose to understand them and use them as fuel towards a better future for ourselves.

His words helped me in my own personal life, but also helped me in my work with my students – many of which came from traumatic backgrounds that I never dreamed of imaginable. 

I could help my students make sense of their traumas. 

To help them understand all of us carry trauma – although it may look different. 

That trauma comes in different forms and manifests differently for everyone.

And to remind them (and myself)…

That they have the power to change their course. 

That they don’t have to remain a victim of their circumstances.

The Power of Choice

The thing is, we always have a choice.

We have a choice in perspective.

A choice in how we see our circumstances.

A choice to use our circumstances and life experiences as setbacks or opportunities.

Choice is the most powerful thing in the world. And can be used in the most powerful of ways. 

As long as we can be conscious of the fact that we ALWAYS have a choice.

We can ALWAYS alter our course.

And with that, I’ll leave you with one final quote:

“I am not a product of my circumstances, I am a product of my decisions.”

– Stephen R. Covey

With love,

Miss T.